6 Ways to Avoid Medical Gaslighting


Last week on the blog, I shared one of my personal experiences with medical gaslighting. This week, I wanted to share my best advice on how to be taken seriously by medical professionals. In the dozens (maybe hundreds?) of doctor’s appointments I’ve been to, these ideas have helped me speak up for myself. They don’t guarantee anything, but they may give you a better chance at getting medical help as you continue your personal medical journey.

1. Learn to advocate for yourself.
This was really hard for me at first because I spend so much of my time trying to hide my pain and convince people that I’m ok because there’s nothing they can do to help anyway. Flipping the switch to try to get someone, in this case a doctor, to believe I truly was in pain was difficult. The first thing you have to do if you want anyone to take your pain seriously is to learn how to take your pain seriously for yourself. Don’t downplay your pain. If it affects your life, learn to speak up. Explaining your experience with pain is not attention seeking, so get rid of that thought. It my take time, but you will eventually learn how you are comfortable explaining your pain and talking about it will become easier.

2. Bring a friend with you.
A simple way to be taken seriously is to bring someone with you who can back you up. It’s easy to feel almost ganged up on at an appointment by yourself, especially if a doctor is committed to not hearing you. Bringing someone along that can support you and help you remember details about the appointment or about your health is invaluable. Shout out to my amazing Mama who has been with me at almost every one of my appointments in the last three years. She’s learned a lot on this journey as my chronic illness ally and I wouldn’t have gotten this far without her validation and constant support.

3. Write down everything.
Doctor’s appointments are often a whirl of information. Things can get lost very easily in conversation. A simple but incredibly helpful way to make sure you were able to say what you need to say is to write down what you want to say before hand and then take notes during the appointment as well. This is especially helpful if you’re transferring medical data between doctors or seeing a doctor for the first time.

4. Have clear goals.
Having a clear goal in mind before visiting a doctor can save you a lot of frustration. The simpler the goal, the better. Sometimes it helps to have just one symptom, one medication, or one problem you want to specifically address in an appointment. When you come in focused on a certain thing, doctors will have a harder time brushing it aside.

5. Ask questions.
If you have questions, ask them. Don’t hesitate for a second. Knowledge is literally power, especially in the medical world. Ask questions about diagnostic processes, medication, medical protocol, anything you think will help you.

6. Ask for a second opinion.
A lot of people seem to think second opinions are somehow taboo or rude in the medical world. I think that is ridiculous. There is nothing taboo about seeking more opinions about your health. It’s your health. A good doctor will not be offended if you see someone else for a second opinion. In fact, a great doctor may even suggest it. Don’t be afraid to seek further medical help if you have doubts or just want more clarity about your diagnosis and treatment.

If you have been a victim of medical gaslighting, it’s critical for you to understand that it is not your fault. What happened to you wasn’t because you weren’t good enough at explaining yourself or speaking up for yourself. It likely happened as a result of human and scientific error. Medical testing isn’t fool-proof and doctors aren’t perfect.

This list isn’t meant to be a guilt-trip for those who have suffered malpractice. I just want to give those with chronic illness the very best chance at being heard, getting help, and finding hope.

Let’s Chat

  • Have you experienced medical gaslighting?
  • What tips would you add to this list?
  • How do you advocate for yourself?

-Alathia

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  1. Didn’t know there was a name for this! Yes, been there and it was a total all out fight! I didn’t win either! I have found that even if I documented the problems, if the doctor did not document them (which happens a lot or documented incorrectly) then there is no proof for one to stand on. You have the right to get a copy of your doctors report for every appointment you have and if something was incorrect you can ask for a correction to be made. Plus you will also have the info for your future use at other appointments or visiting other doctors. Of course those doctors will request this information from your prior doctors, but this way you will know what they are getting and you can also address items that maybe the prior doctors would not go back and correct! I so wish I would have known this sooner!

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  2. The GP I had before my current one didn’t listen. One time I told him I did not know why when I would be on Prednisone for bronchitis that my joints felt so much better. He was dismissive and didn’t listen.
    I am thankful my GP I have now listens. It makes a big difference.

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